I have tried to write this post several times tonight. My heart is full and emotions are raw. Sometimes your broken heart that has been molded with God’s love still seeps through the joy that God provides.
I have had three separate friends share with me in the last week of a mother losing her child. A baby, a miscarriage, a stillbirth, a loss. Each and every time I hear about someone who lost their baby, my heart just hurts for them. I know what it feels like to lose a part of you that can never be replaced. The emotions you will face the days and years ahead. As I have said in previous posts I wish I could take your pain away. I will pray for you.
I really have never shared before the comments that were said to me when I lost my baby. Innocent comments from people who just didn’t know what to say but they still hurt. I didn’t share because they weren’t trying to hurt me they were trying to help. One of the comments that hurt the most was you will have another baby. I realized they were just trying to offer understanding and comfort to me.
As I hear of these sweet mama’s who have lost their babies this week, I know someone will innocently say those words to you. I pray that you know their intentions are to be comforting. I pray that the ones who don’t know what to say to understand just being there with nothing to say is comforting.
When your pregnant, no matter how far along you are, and you lose a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, and even early infant death, we already fell in love. The moment you know your having a baby, you fall in love, before you even meet.
We already fell in love with our baby and that is irreplaceable.
To comfort others is to know love.