Since the beginning of our homeschooling journey I have been at peace with decisions that I made to provide an environment for my children that embraced their over all well-being. An environment of interest, creativity, strengths and weaknesses, love, joy, kindness, and yes even disagreements with brother but healthy disagreements. Healthy disagreements where we can learn at a young age to control ourselves, our emotions, and our reactions. I know as an adult there are some that we will face that are challenging and everything seems to be a constant battle but as an adult I know how to handle these situations and people. Children must learn from us. However, when children are in an environment where the adults are not allowing them to be able to face the situations with growth and security they will feel unsafe and not good enough.
Our child was faced with disgusting behavior from children and adults in her early age. For three years our child was challenged with a situation that involved a child and adults that we were not able to escape. Unfortunately, it left her little soul broken and as a mother my heart broke for her. When the truth was in front of me and how severe the situation really was, I realized it created an insecurity in her that school was unsafe and much worse that all adults were unsafe. We tried to start a new school year with a fresh start but with the everyday challenges that are faced in school it was overwhelming for her and she felt completely unsafe.
It’s okay to quit and walk away from a situation if it is harmful to you emotionally, physically, or spiritually.
While no one else can MAKE you feel a certain way and how you react to an event or behavior is your choice, that lesson often takes years to learn — and most people don’t embrace it fully until adulthood. It’s pretty difficult for a young girl to embrace this mindset, but we’re working on it.
Quality of life and quality of emotions matter. They are a priority for our family. So ultimately, I choose joy. I choose to live inspired and surrounded by drama-free happiness, and I will do whatever I need to ensure my children experience the same life — even if it means quitting or walking away.
I have been asked if pulling my kids from school is really helping and isn’t that giving them the easy way out. Am I teaching my children that we should quit school and walk away? No. I am teaching them that their options for them to flourish and achieve the goals to succeed with quality characteristics in this world. I am providing them the tools to handle situations and feelings that arise in tough situations and to be able to choose joy while facing adversity. I am also teaching them that when you walk away from a harmful situation it does not mean that you would never be faced with it again because you will. When you do, the feelings that were attached to that experience will arise but you can walk away with strength and dignity that no one can take away from you.
If you’re in the midst of a tough storm and your feeling like there is no hope. Remember tough encounters face tough journeys but at the end you will be empowered knowing that you were able to courageously choose joy through it all no matter the outcome. I have this printed in our home and I hope it is a great reminder for you too.
I share the struggles that our family faces not to tell you what is best for your family and certainly not that any school setting is better than the other but to encourage you be courageous and choose joy. We personally did face struggles in public school and chose a different path for our family. I believe that no matter what environment we are in we have the choice to be courageous and stand up for kindness and teach our children that we will always face tough people and the stigma that follows drama but we can be the change.