I have been thinking a lot lately about who I am as a mother. The role that I am in to take care of these gentle and innocent little souls in this big world. As a mom to little ones I spend a lot time in their world. Their toys, their interest, their books, their t.v. shows, and their music. I have had some absolutely amazing days with them learning what makes them giggle and spoiling them rotten. I have has also had those really hard and messy days that I went to bed at the end of the day discouraged and questioning my ability to train them up.
The last eight years I have been a mom I can honestly say one of the hardest struggles I have had to face internally was that I am not perfect. Not that I wanted to be viewed perfect to my friends, my community, or the world, but in my children’s eyes. I wondered what did they think of me. How did I make them feel. As they grow, will they compare me to their friend’s mom’s. I was just so fearful of basically breaking their soul in anyway I felt I needed to be perfect.
Do you struggle with being the perfect mom in your child’s eyes? Have you felt this way? Not only have I struggled with this I also secluded myself in this motherhood journey, especially when my children were younger. Looking back, that is when I needed a sisterhood most of all. Someone to be there by my side who has done this or been on this journey or heck at least to do it together.
When we struggle with this doubt we feel discouraged. We feel too broken to give each other hope.
We are not hopeless. We are not disqualified.
I quickly realized perfection was unattainable but being a mother with flaws was a beautiful story.
Sisters in Christ we need each other. We get each other in Motherhood, especially on those insane days. I have intentionally built a sisterhood around me that I can share my struggles with. A sisterhood I can pour my heart out too when I feel like the most broken person in the world or just to send a text venting about the messy house again or the legos I stepped on. again.
God has equipped us to be the mother our children need. He has equipped us to be there for each and not to be alone. To be the friend our friend craves. The wife that builds our husbands up. The truth seeker that brings a message of hope to the weary. The mender that the broken need to find Jesus.
Sisters, let’ s believe the words God has written for us. Let’s believe in his goodness. Let’s thank him for his unwavering truth. Let’s love God fiercely. Let’s be the women that can offer each other encouragement because we need it so much. Let’s offer each Grace, we are not perfect and I need so much of it. Let’s offer each other hope so we can survive and lot’s and lot’s of love!
Let’s learn together and do life together as mom’s to positively impact the sisterhood of motherhood by accepting our faults and struggles, encouraging our dreams, sharing our passions, loving unconditionally, extending grace instead of judgement, live out loud and share the hope that we have been offered so graciously through Jesus Christ.
We are not perfect. I am not perfect. My children do not need a perfect mom. They need to see the messy days and when I feel helpless I can stand tall with grace and love. Striving for perfection is dis-heartening and never-ending. Striving for authenticity is life-giving.
I’m not just a mom. I am a wife. I am a friend. I am a sister. I am a passionate dreamer. I am a truth seeker. I am a life sharer and most importantly I am a child of the one true king. When it comes down to it our life in Christ is about transformation. For you, for me, for this world, and for my children.