This whole motherhood thing can be scary, fun, stressful, a blessing, and many more all in one. You follow me? If you’re a mom you understand my craziness of all these emotions and feelings completely entangled together. One minute you can be laughing and the next your crying.
This whole thing called motherhood. It has it’s funny days too. You know what I’m talking about. You write your to do list because if you don’t you will forget all the to dos that need to be done because each one of your children are “mom, I need you”, “mom, she/he’s looking at me”, or “mom, my head is stuck, help!” By now you lost your to do list. Scratch, start over. We all have the days that we start cleaning one room but we end up in another room when we see something that belongs in that room. Then were summoned to be a chef in the kitchen, someone has to feed the kids, then the phone rings, you chat for a minute but have to hang up because you hear “mom! {like it’s an emergency} and they say quietly. “I need a drink.” {Insert deep Sigh… so you don’t pull your own hair out} Then if your anything like me you sit down for a second on your computer or start searching through all the latest instagram pictures posted, like. like. like.oh and then Facebook, like. like. and then Pinterest, ooohh pin. pin. and then just for a brief moment you feel defeated.
They can leave you feeling encouraged, excited, motivated, but don’t forget disappointed, discouraged, not good enough and just a plain mess. I share this because I am guilty of it too. We compare our looks, our recipes, our children’s milestones, schooling, how we eat, what we wear, etc.etc.etc..Let’s be real ladies, we all do it at some point. It breaks my heart that we do this and it truly breaks my heart for the mom who doesn’t feel she is good enough for her husband and her kids. If your feeling like this, please know that you are so loved. Not just by your family and others but by the one who created you. The King of Kings created you his masterpiece.
We are human. We are not perfect. We were not meant to be like the mom next to us. We are his masterpiece.
Social media has made it so much easier for us mom’s to feel discouraged, not good enough, and tear each other down. We should be building each other up and sharing our mommy blissdom {not a correct word I know but go with it} we are all unique in the ways God made us specifically for our children. Just because you don’t eat everything organic, limit your t.v. time to twenty minutes a day, home school, scrapbook every moment of your child’s life, have a clean and organized house everyday, whatever it is that other mom’s do and you don’t, doesn’t make you a not good enough mom. What matters is how your children feel? Do they feel loved? Do they feel protected? Are they encouraged? I’m not saying you have to or don’t have to do any of these things I mentioned. There is no comparison in Motherhood. Motherhood is a calling to your children. Not a competitive race in this social world.
Your calling is to be the best mother Jesus designed you to be for you kids. Love your kids with all your heart and teach them to love Jesus. If you want to teach you kids to sew. Then do it. If you’re a lousy seamstress like myself {i can’t even really use seamstress and myself in the same sentence and I still blame the sewing machine} why stress yourself all out feeling you have to teach your daughter to sew or make that new cute crafty organizer thingy made with the cutest chevron pattern you found on Pinterest.
There is just so much pressure on us moms and I feel like we get lost in the motions trying to keep up with this crazy social world and we lose focus sometimes on what it really means to be in this whole motherhood thing. When we lose focus it creates chaos within our homes. At least I know it does for me. I may never be the mom who has it all together, homeschooled my children, can make anything I see on Pinterest, or create fail-proof recipes to pin. I am the mom who can do the best I can with the mean momma skills that I have, to love my children with an exhausted yet joyful heart, and to teach them about love, kindness, forgiveness, God’s grace, and to give every piece of their heart to this world, for God’s glory, not mine or their own. I am also the momma that knows my own weaknesses just as the the enemy who put these not good enough thoughts in my mind. So I pray each day for the wisdom to know the truth before me.
“Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.” (Donna Ball, At Home on Ladybug Farm)
“There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one.” (Jill Churchill)
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