People think they are entitled to tell you things or comment on posts about you because they think they know facts that are actually not true at all. I have always stood up for those being bullied, even as a child, I hated to see bullying and hatred towards others. Verbally, emotionally, and physically hurting someone with no remorse just because they can. It’s awful to think that human beings actually think it is OK to attack someone regardless of the actuality of what is really going on in either person’s world. It is not okay and it never will be okay but sadly it happens all the time.
Today we have technology literally at our fingertips anytime of the day. Social media is a platform that has spread such good and happiness around the world but it has also become a platform for people to hide behind screens and post pictures and hurtful words about someone that they probably wouldn’t say to their face. It has taken bullying to a completely different level. No one is exempt from it.
I was honestly hesitant to even share this post and a recent incident that I encountered with being attacked on line but I share this to tell you that you are not alone. If someone has said horrible things about a picture you posted or an opinion you shared DON’T stop sharing. I have always believed if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it. You can have your opinions, judgments, and thoughts about me, I can’t control that, but keep it to yourself. What is the good in sharing mean things about someone other than to tear them down and break their confidence. Sometimes you actually do that to the person. So if someone is trying to tear you down, stand up for yourself. Share the truth.
If you follow my blog you know that I love graphic tees especially wearing God’s word and sharing his truth. I love to post about my family, my faith, my love for Jesus. I also love sharing shops that I shop from or rep for. I share a lot of pictures of my outfits that I wear for several shops that I adore. I love being able to share something I love or who has encouraged me, and who doesn’t love a cute pair of moto jeggings, graphic tees, and leopard shoes. A faith based apparel shop that I share and shop from recently posted a picture of me wearing their tee. Two girls decided they were going to accuse me of copying someone and call me out online. For everyone’s protection of the parties involved I marked out names but I wanted to share the actual picture of the comments. I was completely shocked that two girls that I don’t even know would attack me online. I was also shocked to see a mutual acquaintance tagged in the comments who they were accusing me of copying. This was completely unprovoked and I chose not to respond to the comments. The shop owner did respond that no one was copying anyone and we all shop at stores just like target before she deleted the comments to not have any of that on her page and I don’t blame her.
I quickly realized the other girl who I was accused of copying blocked me on all social media and this was a personal attack by her family, friends, and her husband to even “like” the comments written about me. This was not something easily to go away for me being the “sensitive” situation that I was in since we know each other. Blocking each other, deleting comments, and just pretending it didn’t happen was not going to just make this go away. I was not only being harassed by someone I don’t know but also handling a situation of “feelings” that are persuaded by someone’s fictional reality about me and by someone that I know personally.
Here’s the thing. We live in a world that involves Instagram, Facebook, Blogging, and Pinterest. At some point we are all going to face something similar but that does not automatically mean “copying”. This whole situation between her and I really is trivial to be about copying one’s clothing. I could share a lot of details but that wouldn’t help anything at all. What it all comes down to is we shop at similar places and several of our mutual friends do too. Several of us wear the same graphic tees, kimonos, jeggings, shoes, and more BUT we all have our OWN style uniquely separating us. So why I was called out and not them is absolutely ridiculous to me and supports the facts of harassment and bullying by being singled out and family members accusing me of these ridiculous actions.
My blog has been a platform of encouragement, love, and sharing my journey with my family and friends. I have gained the most amazing friendships on Instagram and have been so blessed by all these awesome ladies that are makers, mamas, believers, survivors, and more. EVERY SINGLE post I share with pictures of my graphic tees that share God’s word and life experiences are all attached to my LIFE. Experiences I have journeyed through such as love, faith, hope, and child loss. EVERY SINGLE POST I share is to encourage myself and others, to share love and goodness I know this world is still so very full of, and kindness that needs to be spread everywhere. EVERY SINGLE POST or COMMENT is thought about before I share if it will hurt someone or tear someone down. My blog is also a platform to raise awareness to topics that I am passionate about.
We should never degrade, disrespect, or humiliate someone. We should be complimenting each other instead of competing with each other. We should be building each other up instead of tearing each other down. We should be sharing kindness and love instead of jealousy and hate. Truth is we will always deal with some negative vibes with someone. It’s our human nature. It’s what we do with it and how we treat each other that speaks of our character and what we intended to arise. Empowered women empower women.
“Nobody is superior, nobody is inferior, but nobody is equal either. People are simply unique, incomparable. You are You. I am I.” -Osho